1 Simple Tool To Reduce Anxiety And Kick Worrying To The Curb

1 Simple Tool To Reduce Anxiety And Kick Worrying To The Curb

1 Simple Tool To Reduce Anxiety And Kick Worrying To The Curb

Do you feel a flutter in your heart every time you go to make a decision?

Do you quickly reflect what your friend would choose or what would get you the most compliments?

Do you worry about what people think of you? That you said the wrong thing, or that they now think you’re a total weirdo.

Worrying sucks.

And it’s even worse when it’s worrying that fuels your anxiety, makes you feel small and smooshes your confidence like a bug.

I could tell you “Don’t worry about it”. But if you’re anything like me, that phrase makes me want to grab a pitchfork and go screaming through the street. I usually end up muttering under my breath “Don’t worry about it….I’ll show you don’t worry about it.”

So heave a sigh of relief, because I definitely won’t be giving you that advice.

What I will be giving you is the advice that stopped me from worrying or caring what people think.

It’s a total game changer and a tool I use almost daily to kick my worrying to the curb and reduce my anxiety.

If you’re ready to ditch the worrying, click play below or download on your fav podcast platform.

How To Face Your Fears And Live The Life You Want

How To Face Your Fears And Live The Life You Want

How To Face Your Fears And Live The Life You Want

Do you try to face your fears but feel like you get no where?

Like you’re totally stuck and there is no way around them?

Ah-huh, you aren’t alone.

That raise you want to ask for?
Or that new class you want to attend on your own?
Or that potential new friend you wanna ask to hang out with…?

Do any of those get your heart beating and the sweat pooling in your pits? Yep, yep and yep.

Fear isn’t just present in life threatening situations. It can pop its stinky head up any time it feels like your well-being is at risk.

Whether that’s social rejection, humiliation, confrontation or anything that makes you feel uneasy, reduces your confidence or threatens your sense of belonging in the world.

Fear is a protective bodyguard for your heart.

But sometimes, fear is too overprotective. It grabs your steering wheel and stops you from living your life.

Facing your fears isn’t as easy as telling fear to f@#! off, punching it in the face or smothering it in a box with a pretty bow.

No, to truly overcome your fear you need to work with it.

Hear it out and ask yourself two crucial questions.

If you’re ready to grab back your steering wheel and take back control of your life…

Watch or listen to this episode now.

A phenomenal life is waiting for you just around the around.

Overcoming Anxiety: The One Question That Changed My Life

Overcoming Anxiety: The One Question That Changed My Life

Overcoming Anxiety:

The One Question That Changed My Life

Imagine if there was one question that could change the trajectory of your anxiety and change your life forever.

It’d be pretty phenomenal, right?

That’s what happened to me.

When I was in the deep trenches of my anxiety and stress, this one question made me question everything and is the question I ask myself all the time so I’m always creating a life I absolutely love. One that keeps anxiety at bay.

This question helped me overcome my anxiety.

This question gifted me with such a profound sense of anxiety relief, and filled my heart with beautiful joy, breathtaking calm and phenomenal freedom.

If you’re feeling stuck in the trenches of your anxiety and you’re struggling to find a way to freedom, today’s episode is for you.

Because maybe my question will be the one to change your life, too.

Click play below or download on your fav podcast platform.

How To Treat Anxiety #1: Rewire Your Brain

How To Treat Anxiety #1: Rewire Your Brain

HOW TO TREAT ANXIETY #1: REWIRE YOUR BRAIN

(and change your anxiety forever)

Do you usually just try to smother your anxiety and hope it goes away?

Oh yep, I’ve been there too.

The thing is, anxiety doesn’t just disintegrate into fairy dust.

Talking about your anxiety can ease the pressure and make you realise why you’re getting anxious, but to truly experience beautiful anxiety relief, then you need to get down and dirty with your beliefs.

Ah yes, those pesky subconscious beliefs that dictate how you should feel and how your body should behave as you experience the world. Those beliefs are what trigger an anxiety response.

They tell your heart to start pounding and squeeze your chest super tight and flood your veins with adrenaline.

They persuade your mind how to think and that maybe you should be worried or feel uneasy or feel overwhelmed right now.

These beliefs are phenomenal when you need to run away from a tiger.
These beliefs aren’t so great when they paralyse you with anxiety and stop you living your life.

Luckily, you can rewire them and treat your anxiety.

Once you do, well, strap on your booties because a freakin’ fantastic life awaits you.

Want to learn all about your beliefs and how they influence your anxiety, then listen to this weeks podcast episode on your fav platform below or hit play. 

How To Treat Anxiety: The 4 Life-Changing Factors That Will Set You Free

How To Treat Anxiety: The 4 Life-Changing Factors That Will Set You Free

HOW TO TREAT ANXIETY:

THE 4 LIFE-CHANGING FACTORS THAT WILL SET YOU FREE

Feeling overwhelmed, worried and downright anxious? Or feel like your anxiety medication isn’t cutting the mustard?

This is because there is more to anxiety relief than just neurotransmitters (aka. what your medication is doing).

To truly find freedom from your anxiety (without the zombie-like side effects) you need to look at the big picture – from your mind to your body to your environment. And it’s easier than it sounds!

I show you how to treat anxiety by making sure you love and nourish 4 specific factors in this weeks episode.

These 4 factors are the ones I used on myself when my anxiety spiraled out of control, they’re the ones that finally gifted me with long lasting anxiety relief and they’re now the ones I use to help my clients achieve calm and peace from their anxiety, too.

If you’re looking to finally experience long lasting anxiety relief, this episode is for you.

Download the podcast episode from your fav podcast platform or hit play below.

 

 

The truth is, there’s actually only two factors you need to address to achieve long term freedom from your anxiety.

Now there’s always going to be treatments out there that help you band-aid your anxiety. This makes your anxiety more manageable and reduces your symptoms so you can feel calm in the short term. But if you ever want to take off the band-aid, the chances are, your anxiety is going to come back again.

Which is why if you want to find long term freedom from your anxiety, you need to address the root cause of your anxiety, AKA, your anxiety beliefs.

 

#1. Anxiety Beliefs

Your beliefs tell your mind how to think and your body how to act.

So, when a potential anxiety trigger comes along, the anxiety trigger activates your subconscious belief and that belief tells your body and your mind to go into anxiety mode.

The key here is to rewire those subconscious anxiety beliefs into calming non-anxiety beliefs. So the next time you’re exposed to that anxiety trigger, the calming non-anxiety belief is activated and you stay calm and in control.

To rewire these anxiety beliefs, you need to go deep and uncover the stories that backup and strengthen that particular anxiety belief.

And then rewire it.

Rewire it with new stories that promote calm and confidence.

Once you’ve rewired your anxiety belief with a calm and confident belief and found the stories to back it up, you’re less likely to automatically be triggered by that particular anxiety response, which means you stay calm, cool, and collected.

Now because you’re human being living out in the world, experiencing new things, and going on new adventures, it means you’re always going to potentially be exposed to new anxiety triggers. That is why this second part is so incredibly important.

 

#2. Anxiety Resiliency

The second part is strengthening your anxiety resiliency.

Now, what do I mean by resiliency?
This basically means your mind and body’s inner ability to not be triggered by an anxiety trigger.

The way I like to describe this is, imagine you’re putting on one of those Medieval knight armour outfits. You’ve got the helmet, chest plate, the arm guards, the leg guards, the things that cover your hands and even your feet. You’ve got the entire kit and caboodle; you’re completely covered and really well protected. So when that sword comes swinging your way, it can’t penetrate through your armour and harm you.

In this analogy your armour is your anxiety resiliency.

When you have all the pieces of your armour, your armour is strong and totally protects you from harm.

And that sword swinging at you? That’s your anxiety trigger. They’re things like doing a presentation, asking your boss for a raise, going to an event alone or going on a first date.

But if your armour is incomplete…like you’re missing your chest plate and you’re missing your leg guards, when that sword comes swinging at you, it can easily get through the gaps in your armour and cause you damage and harm.

Your armour reflects your anxiety resiliency.

The more armour you have on = the stronger your anxiety resiliency.

The stronger your anxiety resiliency = the less likely you’re going to be triggered by a potential anxiety trigger.

Take for example you’re going on a first date.

Let’s say this date was to happen in the week leading up to your period:

  • You’re feeling a little bit PMS-ie.
  • You slept terribly.
  • Your energy’s really flat.
  • You’ve had had one too many cups of coffee.

In this case, you’re more prone to feeling anxious, uneasy, and worried in the lead up to that first date and there’s a higher chance you’re going to bail.

This is because your hormones are unbalanced (causing your PMS), you’re lacking sleep and you’re swimming in oodles of caffeine. These 3 factors are dents in your armour. Therefore, they reduce your anxiety resiliency.

Now let’s say that date was happening two weeks earlier.

  • So smack in the middle of ovulation when your hormones make you feel really good.
  • You slept amazing last night.
  • You only had one cup of coffee.

You might be feeling a little bit nervous, but generally you’re still feeling pretty confident, calm, and you’re going ahead with the date.

This is a case where your anxiety resiliency is much higher.

Your hormones are balanced, you slept really well, and you aren’t swimming in caffeine, meaning you have more pieces of armour on, which is making you less susceptible to feeling anxiety.

What’s the difference between these two situations?

The first time, your anxiety resiliency was way too low because your hormones were unbalanced, you had lack of sleep and too much caffeine.

In the second situation, your anxiety resiliency was really high because your hormones were balanced, you had good sleep and only minimal caffeine.

Low resiliency = more prone to feeling anxious.

High resiliency = less prone to feeling anxious.

So, the higher your anxiety resiliency, the more likely you’re going to completely bounce an anxiety trigger off you when you’re exposed to one, leaving you happy, calm and confident.

Sounds amazing, right?

 

But now the important question, where do you get this resiliency from now?

This is where the second part is broken up into three important sections:

  1. Your mindset or psychological resiliency
  2. Your environmental resiliency
  3. Your health or physiological resiliency

 

1. Mindset Resiliency

Your mindset refers to your thought patterns and general attitudes.

Are you a generally positive and optimistic thinker or are you generally a negative worrywart, pessimistic thinker?

Your mindset and general thoughts are that beginning domino that can lead to anxiety or calm. If you’re prone to thinking negatively and pessimistically, that promotes that downward spiral towards anxiety. Whereas if you’re an optimistic and positive thinker, that encourages you towards calm and confidence.

Your mindset can heavily influence which direction your mood goes.

 

2. Environmental Resiliency

Your environmental resiliency refers to your:

  • physical environment
  • mental environment
  • online environment
  • life environment

Let’s take your physical environment for example. If you were to look around your room and it was really messy, chaotic, and disorganized, and you struggle to think of where to find something, that adds to the chaos and overwhelm in your mind. This makes you more prone to feeling anxiety.

But if you looked around your room and it was really clean, the benches were empty, and as soon as you thought of something, you knew exactly where to find it, that encourages you to feel calm and in control.

If you have a chaotic environment = you’re more prone to anxiety.

If you have a calm and controlled environment = your risk of anxiety is reduced.

 

3. Health Resiliency

And lastly, your physiological or your health derived resiliency.

Now this one packs a heck of a punch.

This one refers to your internal body:

  • Are your hormones balanced?
  • Are you ovulating so you actually have an abundance of beautiful progesterone, which reduces anxiety?
  • What’s your gut like? Do you have an abundance of the bad bacteria which promote anxiety? Or do you have a lot of the good guys that reduce anxiety?
  • What’s your diet like? Are you eating enough nutrients and protein to make your neurotransmitters in the first place? Your GABA and serotonin that make you feel calm and feel good, require certain proteins and certain nutrients to make them in the first place.
  • Are you eating anxiogenic foods? These are foods that promote anxiety.
  • What’s your stress like?
  • …and a whole bunch of other different health areas.

Your health has such an influential impact in either promoting a state of anxiety in your body or promoting calm and confidence.

Just take for example when you’re feeling tired and really stressed, you’re more prone to feeling overwhelmed, irritated, and uneasy.

But if you’re not stressed and you’ve had a really good night’s sleep, you’re generally more level headed and feeling calm and more confident.

 

This trifecta of your mindset, your environment, and your physical health can make the shiniest, newest and strongest anxiety armour, that completely deflects any anxiety trigger that’s thrown your way, leaving you calm and happy.

Over the next four episodes, I’m going to be going into much greater detail about these four areas so I can show you how to achieve long-term freedom from your anxiety:

  • The root cause of your anxiety: your anxiety beliefs
  • Your mindset resiliency
  • Your environmental resiliency
  • Your physical health resiliency

Remember your anxiety is not your destiny. Your solution is out there and the life beyond your wildest dreams is just around the corner.

Till next time, 

The common mistakes when dealing with anxiety, and how to finally get it right.

The common mistakes when dealing with anxiety, and how to finally get it right.

THE COMMON MISTAKES WHEN DEALING WITH ANXIETY, AND HOW TO FINALLY GET IT RIGHT.

 

HOW TO NOT DEAL WITH ANXIETY

What’s your go-to when anxiety decides to pay a visit?

Option #1. Quickly try to smother it and pretend it doesn’t exist.

Option #2. Tell yourself in a lovely meditative voice “I recognise you’re here, thank you, now please move on”. You hope your anxiety has been ‘recognised’ and feels satiated for the time being, and then you smother it down.

Option #3. You allow anxiety to flood every cell in your body, really feel it and let it do its thing and wait for it to feel heard, accepted and then move on. But it never moves on, so you eventually have to smother it back down.

Option #4. You try to breathe through it while repeating the mantra “You’re not here, I’m fine, go away” and in a very gentle breathy way it gets smothered.

See the recurring theme: anxiety is always smothered.

It may be heard, it may even get the chance to cry at you, but it is always smothered. It sits there, rolls it eyes, maybe huffs, and eventually leaves you, knowing it can try again later.

 

Your bodies fire alarm

You see anxiety isn’t a rationale beast. It’s a survival beast. It doesn’t see a room full of people and think “Gosh my soul sister is sitting in here and I’m going to absolutely love this event”. Oh no, it’s thinking “Here are 30 people…30 people who might judge me, criticise me, laugh at me and think I’m a total freak…crap, I have to save you from this”. Alarm bells go off, it tells you to get the heck outta there because ahead is only filled with danger and terrible, terrible things.

I’m still trying to decide if ‘your anxiety’ would be the first to die in the Hunger Games due to being too terrified to fend for itself, or it would hide for so long it would miraculously come second purely because it would never be found and would got smoked out. But it would never win. Anxiety is your bodies fire alarm. At every sign of smoke or danger, it will fire off. That signal will go on and on and on to alert you that you’re in DANGER DANGER DANGER.

It sees you either trying to turn the fire alarm off (aka. take the batteries out), turn down the volume on the signal, or do some weird happy dance to distract it. But in anxieties eyes, that danger is still there right in front of you and it’s looking at you with a big ol’stink eye thinking “What is wrong with you?! There is danger here, get into panic mode!”.

 

Your fake bestie – the amygdala

You see, there are currently only 2 solutions: 1. The initial trigger hasn’t gone away 2. Anxiety won and you ran away so the trigger is momentarily gone.

This response is your fear response, carried out by your fake bestie/overprotective friend, the amygdala. Your amygdala analyses your situation and your thoughts and if it sees a potential danger it signals the fire alarm to scream “DANGER DANGER DANGER”.

This happens all before your conscious brain gets the signal and realises there is no danger.

You see, your amygdala uses a storage of memories, thoughts, beliefs, stories and references to analyse the situation. These are all the things you have accumulated in your life and your amygdala is only trying to do its job as your overbearing protector. Its only job is that you’re safe, it doesn’t care if the situation isn’t really scary. The first time you’re exposed to this situation, your amygdala has no knowledge as to how it will play out, so it assumes it’s harmless and you go along with it panic-free. Once the situation is over, you now have evidence on how that particular situation made you feel. This develops into a belief, and the amygdala gets its first bit of research so it’s prepared the next time you stumble across a similar scenario.

This ‘situation’ isn’t always facing a saber tooth tiger. (I’d hope your amygdala associates that ‘situation’ as terrifying and kicks your body into fight or flight mode!)

It could be watching Gossip Girl and seeing Blair Wardolf belittle one of her minions for not wearing the appropriate headband. It could be your parents arguing over lack of money. It could be seeing other kids snicker at a kid for bringing in her homemade macaroni necklace in pre-primary.

Your beliefs are formed everywhere.

They don’t have to personally happen to you. Your brain has analysed that situation, categorised it into “this would make me happy” or “this would make me sad” or “this would be freakin’ terrifying”.

We talk about learning from others mistakes, but I personally believe some people learn too much. My earliest memory is being in pre-primary and seeing a kid trip over and scuff his knee and start crying. The other girls I was with laughed at him for crying. I remember being so torn as to what to do, but I followed the cool crowd and laughed along. I used to feel intense fear anytime I may cry in public, even 20 years later. That memory had a strong emotional hold in me, but I know there are plenty of other references I’ve collected over the years to cement that – crying when my brother hit me and being laughed at, watching girls on chick flicks cry at school and get laughed at by the cool kids, crying when I got paired with my brother as my mentor in year 3 (sorry bro!). These little snippets and stories in my life have strengthened my belief that it’s uncool to cry in public. And if I dare come even close, I feel intense embarrassment and my heart clams up. I still cry as privately as I can, and still feel anxious and embarrassed if people see me. I used to not want to watch sad movies at the cinemas for fear of having to walk out crying.

But what’s wrong with crying in public? My conscious brain chose to keep recognising those stories, that they became such a deep subconscious thought that crying in public = humiliation. My conscious brain never got the chance to argue it because the anxiety made me feel terrible and I didn’t deal with it. So now if I feel the whisper of tears coming to my eyes while I’m in public, my heart starts pounding, an iron fist crushes my chest, a lump forms in my throat, my hands get sweaty and amygdala screams DANGER DANGER DANGER. Even in situations that are deemed ‘socially acceptable’ to cry, such as at a funeral. I feel dread and anxious. Eventually those feelings of anxiousness become too much that I’d tend to avoid going to any situation that may put me in that position.

 

Flipping your life around

And here lies where I start to sacrifice my life, because of my anxiety.

Your subconscious mind is freaking powerful.

But so are you.

I won’t say I can walk around balling my eyes out, but I am also not ashamed to cry and it no longer triggers that intense feeling of anxiety, dread or embarrassment. I also don’t avoid those situations where I may cry, I embrace them, because crying is a beautiful human emotion and I’m proud to feel it.

It’s not enough to tell your brain “Crying’s OK”. Because I can betcha that little voice in your head will instantly say “No, it’s not”.

You have to re-wire those beliefs. And it won’t happen overnight.

You need to understand that fear on an intimate level, what that belief is. And flip it. Flip it 180 into the total opposite.

So for me, it was “Crying is a beautiful thing to do in public” (ok, maybe not that dramatic, but you get the picture).

Then, find EVERY SINGLE reference, story, thought, etc you have to back up that new phrase. They need to be TRUE stories, ones your brain can not argue again. Because the more stories and references you have to back up that new phrase, the more it becomes your new belief and starts to rewire that neural pathway, diminishing the old detrimental belief.

I wish I could tell you creating that list once will be enough and your amygdala will rule “crying in public” off your list of fears. But I won’t lie to you. Now it’s time to be consciously aware, because trust me in that your thought can be a sneaky subconscious one. Each time that thought pops up, your body starts to go into its old automatic response, but you need to grab it, flip it and list of all those references and stories you thought of to back up the new belief and override the old one.

I can say it gets easier. It gets easier to flip it. It gets easier to list all the references. And eventually, your subconscious takes the new TRUE belief as its own, and it’s the new subconscious belief to automatically pop up. Wa-laa! Crying in public now seems like a wonderful emotion and not scary at all.

See the power of the mind?

The subconscious is there to keep you alive. But your conscious is there to let you thrive.

This all sounds well and good for known triggers…fear of needles, fear of dogs….but often most of these are subconscious and take some digging to really uncover.

I find this process one of the most influential and magical processes I have ever gone through, and it honestly changed my life.

It can be scary, it can be daunting, it can be overwhelming.

 

But you can do it. We can do it together.

 

Heck I had 3 mentors who guided me through mine, and it was only at the end that I realised what I did and how I pieced all of it together.

 

My Anxiety Program is coming soon and you better believe that I have collated all my learnings and put them into one module for you.

The gut, the brain health, the diet, the sex hormones are all important….but this mindset right here is the clincher. I walk you through step by step to discovering all those deep subconscious beliefs, and walk you through the exact questions to ask yourself to overcome them. Discovering who you truly are, discovering what beliefs control your life, and discovering what stories have backed it all up and which ones you have to counteract them will, be the dynamite that’s missing in your life. It’s scary as batshit, but I believe in you 100%. I did it, so it is entirely possible you can too.

 

If you want to learn more about my program, book an Anxiety Transformation Call – it will change your life.